Teenage Privacy

Recently, I watched an episode of “Grounded for Life” a TV sitcom about an average American family. This episode titled “In my room” (Copeland, 2001), presents the struggle of modern day parents seek the invisible line of privacy vs. protection with their teens.

Sean (the dad), finds a fake ID in his teenage daughter’s (Lily) room while looking for a stamp to use. Just the fact that she has it, sends the parents’ minds racing to imagine all that she might have used it for (i.e. buy beer and condoms, see rated R movies). Their fears are worsened by the fact that they themselves had fake ID’s at that age and DID us them to buy beer. They are faced with how to confront their daughter in light of the fact that they have invaded her private space.

It was interesting to see the contrast between the generations in the approach--The grandpa’s definition of “privacy” compared to the parents. Grandpa defined “privacy” as “hiding something bad” (Copeland, 2001), and gives his opinion that there is no dilemma at all…”just shove it in her face!”(Copeland, 2001). The parents, however, consider the ID as “tainted evidence” (Copeland, 2001)--in light of the fact that it was obtained under such circumstances--and therefore is not admissible as evidence.

I think this episode does show some light on a topic that based on individual opinions and circumstances may have differing responses. Our modern culture may have supported the teen possibly 100%. However, I myself tend to side with the law in recognizing that teens are not yet adults and that until they are, parents are ultimately responsible for them. Thus, parents should treat teens as persons “entering” adulthood (meaning not yet arrived). Teens are still learning what is acceptable behavior and this includes building trust one area at a time. When trust is broken or there is good evidence that trust should be questioned (in this case a fake ID), then for the protection of the teen, the parents need to investigate the matter.

I recently heard of a mother selling her sons car after finding beer in it. The classified ad read as follows, “OLDS 1999 Intrigue. Totally uncool parents who obviously don't love teenage son, selling his car. Only driven for three weeks before snoopy mom who needs to get a life found booze under front seat. $3,700/offer. Call meanest mom on the planet" (Aly, 2008). This mom realized that by having tough love in this situation, she was being the best friend he could have…hopefully someday he will realize that and be thankful. In my opinion this is a good example where protection trumps over privacy.

References:

Aly, R. (2008, January 17). ‘Meanest mom’ ad draws support from many. Palm Desert Sun. Retrieved January 20, 2008, from http://www.mydesert.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?

AID=/20080117/NEWS04/801170316/1010/news04Copeland, B. (Writer), & Lazarus, P. (Director). (2001). In My Room [Television series episode]. Grounded for Life. Los Angeles: Fox Broadcasting